Woman Shares 14 Things No One Tells You About Miscarriage: "Miscarriage is so, so lonely."

Woman Shares 14 Things No One Tells You About Miscarriage: "Miscarriage is so, so lonely."

Kristen R. Moore shared a Twitter thread revealing her own experiences through this tragic loss.

Miscarriage, unfortunately, is a very common loss that women have to face during pregnancy. As per WebMD, while 50% of all pregnancies end in miscarriages even before the mother knows that they are pregnant, 15-20% of informed pregnancies end in a miscarriage.

Despite the statistics, conversations around miscarriages are considered taboo. This spontaneous loss of pregnancy is incredibility traumatic and there is an increasing need for more awareness and support for the people who go through it. Kristen R. Moore did her part by creating a Twitter thread about her own experience with a miscarriage. She talks about the things that no one tells about suffering through this great loss. Her tweets are being shared widely and compelled many other mothers to share their own experiences.



These are 14 things that Kristen. R Moore shared about miscarriage.

1. It is a long and tiring process. 




2. Lack of training in the medical profession




3. Stigma attached to the medication




4. Inaccessibility of medication and care




5. You can request additional medicinal information




6. Infertility treatments and miscarriages




7. The feeling of loneliness




8.  The dilemma of losing a part of you




9. The grief of non-birthing parents is real




10. The body will take time to reverse the changes




11. It's hard to talk about it




12. Things you shouldn't say to someone who underwent a miscarriage




13. You will find support and care




14. It is painful and expensive




Moore has one child who was conceived through IVF, reports Buzzfeed News. She says, "We tried for seven years before we got our first positive pregnancy test through IVF, after a laparoscopy, several rounds of insemination, and years of trying ourselves." However, she had a surprise pregnancy a few years later which resulted in a miscarriage. "I was 13 weeks along by the time I had the D&C (a procedure that clears the uterine lining after a miscarriage)." she recalls. "I was almost 12 weeks when we couldn't find the heartbeat. We'd heard the heartbeat several times before and had gotten the all-clear on our genetic tests. We'd just started telling people because the tests were all good," she added.

Moore says that the process is incredibly inaccessible to most parents because of the huge expenses involved. The extensive bill of more than $1,200 dollars—which Moore got even after having good insurance—compelled her to share her experience with the miscarriage. "I believe we should implement comprehensive healthcare reform, especially for women. That healthcare reform should include post-miscarriage support, including time off after birth and miscarriage, therapists/doula support, and a more holistic approach to training medical professionals dealing with this kind of loss." 



Her Twitter thread triggered a series of comments from parents sharing their own experiences with miscarriages. A user, Kristin, wrote, "My heart goes out to you so deeply. I lost my first baby at 12 weeks. I walked around the house the day after the confirmation but before the dnc, feeling like my body wasn't a temple but a tomb. I am sorry. Just so, so sorry love. Survive. That's literally all anyone can ask." Another user, Carrie, highlighted the importance of training to deal with miscarriages in hospitals. "I had one (24 years ago) dr didn’t do D&C. Told me I could get pregnant again right away (i was younger & had NO CLUE). I got pregnant immediately but had an infection due to lack of D&C and lost twins. It still haunts me. Thank you for sharing."







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