Her fiancé’s mom called her a gold digger and pressured her into signing a prenup which is when the woman decided to stand up for herself.
One woman is questioning whether standing up for herself was the wrong thing to do because her fiance ended up feeling hurt and "emasculated." The 32-year-old was accused of being a gold digger by her future mom-in-law, who kept pressuring her to get a prenup. The written contract is signed by a couple that’s engaged and determines their rights over assets, properties and debts if the marriage is dissolved. In this case, the woman had clearly mentioned that she never wanted a prenup but her MIL kept insisting, and that's when things blew up.
Reddit user AITAemasculatormaybe shared her story on the AITA section, explaining: My fiance and I have been together for about 6 years, engaged for 2. After we got engaged, we sat down and had the "deal breakers" talk. Basically things in our lives, our futures, hypothetical situations that leave little room for compromise (ie adopting children, finances, family boundaries, religion etc).One of the things on my list was no pre-nup. I'm not here to debate with anyone about their use, I just think that if you're preparing for divorce before even getting married, it's a sign that you're probably marrying the wrong person. He agreed and everything was fine. Lately his family (particularly his mother) keeps on bringing up signing a pre-nup. I've told her no many times, said this is an issue between us and we will discuss it privately and make our own decisions as a couple. He also tells her no, although more weakly.
The MIL-to-be decided to take the matter up a notch and actually brought out a prenup drafted by her lawyer, put it in front of her son's partner after dinner, and told her to sign it. The woman refused and was accused of being a gold digger. Even her fiance didn't stand up for her. On the contrary, she elaborated: I told her that there is no gold to dig here: I make four times as much as he makes (I'm an MD and he dropped out second year), I've paid off all my student debt (he has over 100K left), I have my own house, ample savings and will certainly inherit more from my parents than he will from his (they have 6 kids and are middle class). What is she worried about?
That shut her up real quick especially when my SIL then said "if anything, he's the gold digger here". My fiance is now angry with me. He said it was emasculating for his family to know I'm so much more successful than him and his brothers are making jokes and changed his contact info to "gold digger". Personally, I don't think I was rude or out of line but he thinks I was an asshole and could've handled it better.
The woman asked other Redditors if she was in the wrong and most people sided with her. One person noted: His mother brought in the pre-nup - in front of the whole family - AFTER he already said no. His mother called his fiance a gold digger infront of him & the entire family. But YOU were the one who emasculated him? NTA The fact that he didn't defend you is a huge red flag. The fact that he feels emasculated is a huge red flag. The fact that he blames you instead of his mother is the biggest red flag. His mother thought it was a test to see if you are good enough for her son. It was actually a test to see if he is good enough for you. He failed.
Do you agree?