Wife & Gay Husband Are Parents To Two Kids. They Say They Are Happily Married & Have Great Sex

Wife & Gay Husband Are Parents To Two Kids. They Say They Are Happily Married & Have Great Sex

Brynn Embley, 35, and Matthew Neilson, 33, are married even though Neilson is openly gay.

35-year-old Brynn Embley and husband Matthew Neilson, 33, are not your regular couple. The unconventional pair is happily married while Embley describes herself as straight and her husband Matthew identifies as gay or pansexual. The two say they are in a mixed-orientation marriage. Neilson admitted that he is “more attracted to men than women” but that hasn't affected the couple's relationship.  Embley and Neilson got married in 2017 and have been together for 4 years. They are monogamous and are parents to two daughters – Guinevere, one, and two-year-old Amandine. 


Neilson is a postdoctoral researcher in psychology as well as a member of the Church of Jesus Christ and Latter-Day Saints. Embley is also a member of the church.  Neilson had previously dated both men and women but he’d never had sex with anyone. The two met for the first time at church in early 2016 and after a few dates, he revealed he was gay. According to The Sun, the mom-of-two, who lives in Ypsilanti, Michigan revealed, “He looked straight at me and said ‘Brynn, I’m gay.’ I remember it because he seemed so serious – or like he was looking for some sort of reaction from me. It just wasn’t a huge deal, he was with me, his choice – what else mattered? I already knew that we didn’t have a strong chemical attraction as I had experienced with other boyfriends, but it didn’t really matter to me. I know he thinks I’m attractive, and I know he’s drawn to me, and his sexual orientation didn’t negate those things. I was really happy that I had a relationship where the selling point was liking and respecting each other as people.”


Neilson admitted he initially had some doubts because he was more attracted to men, sexually.  "I still was uncertain about the strength of our sexual connection," he said, candidly. "I tried to be as open as I could that I wasn't sure whether I would even enjoy sex with her or with any woman. But I think we both felt reassured that we enjoyed cuddling, holding hands, and kissing." He added, "I didn't even really know myself how strong my orientation to one gender or another might be. While I was more attracted to men, in general, there had been a few women to whom I was really attracted. I had a strong motivation to try really hard to make it work with a woman so that I didn't have to be lonely and celibate for the rest of my life. Obviously, not a great place for me or most of the women that I was dating. I've heard gay men say that they can't even imagine trying to be sexual with a woman, and I have never felt that way. It is still not the strongest part of our relationship, it is easy for me to wonder about what I might be missing if I were in a relationship with a man. But that being said, we do enjoy having sex and being together in that way, which is a relief!" Embley added, "There are also people who assume things about our relationship that are just plain wrong. I really try not to focus on the negative or let negative comments get me down - but they do, and one way I combat that is by sharing. We are so happy in this quirky, unique, sublime relationship."