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Steve Jobs Refused To Accept His Daughter For Years But His Daughter Forgave Him| "I Felt Ashamed...I Had This Father"

Steve Jobs Refused To Accept His Daughter For Years But His Daughter Forgave Him| "I Felt Ashamed...I Had This Father"

Steve Jobs was a genius and many looked up to him as a role model. But as a parent, Jobs did not fulfill all his duties.

Every kid wants to be accepted by their parents. No matter how much financial support you give your kid, what every child wants is an emotional connection with their parents.

They want to be loved and raised under their guidance. However, some parents fail to understand this. Apple Inc. founder Steve Jobs is admired by many around the world for his brilliance in the field of technology. But as a father, he was not the best dad.



 

Jobs was raised by his modest Christian adoptive parents after being abandoned by his parents. According to CheatSheet, during his high school years in Cupertino, California he met his high school sweetheart, Chrisann Brennan. The couple dated on and off and eventually, Brennan became pregnant. That did not sit well with Jobs. He refused to accept the child as his own. 

That was the same year Jobs founded Apple and the technology enthusiast was excited to grow his company. He did not bother to make his unborn child a priority. He was so negligent that he was not even present at the child's birth. So, Lisa Nicole Brennan was born on May 17, 1978, on a farm, which was a commune, outside of Portland, Oregon without her father to witness the birth.



 

Days later, he decided to drop by but his ignorance continued. "My father arrived a few days later," said Brennan. She added, "'It’s not my kid,' he kept telling everyone at the farm, but he’d flown there to meet me anyway. I had black hair and a big nose, and [his friend] said, "'She sure looks like you'," according to Quartz. Jobs refused to accept her and he was demanded to do a paternity test. However, he rejected the request. Soon, it became a legal battle, and Jobs was forced to do the test. 

The test results proved he was the father, yet Jobs stated, "28% of the male population of the United States could be the father," according to CheatSheet. Though he continued to reject being Brennan's father, he was working on a computer named Lisa. Many thought he named it after his daughter but Jobs came forward to deny any association with his daughter. He stated that it was an acronym for Local Integrated Systems Architecture.

Years later, he admitted it was named after his daughter and the man tried to reconcile with his daughter and fix the relationship he had broken.

But he was too late. Brennan went through a lot of pain and was left scarred and wounded by her father's treatment.  "All I wanted was closeness and sweetness and for him to relieve me. To let me be the star, probably. To be like, ‘Well, how was your day?’ And to listen. And at such a young age, and so used to the spotlight, and to everybody fawning on him… he didn’t know how to be with me," said the heartbroken daughter.



 

After Jobs' death in 2011, Brennan wrote a book describing the relationship she shared with her father.

She wrote, "When I first started writing the book, I wanted to garner self-pity because I felt really badly about myself. I mean, gosh, that’s gone. A lot of the veil of shame has dissipated and I don’t know if it’s age, or writing the book, or both. But I wanted to have some scenes that would make you feel really bad for me, because I felt ashamed of the fact that I had this father – clearly I was not compelling enough for my father, this incredible man, to unequivocally own. I would think, was I an ugly baby? I even asked him that once. And I knew it was cheesy and facetious even as I asked it, or possibly manipulative. But it was a feeling that kept coming up because he wouldn’t look at my baby albums. I’d leave them out, and then once he was like, ‘Who’s that?’ And I was like, ‘It’s me!'," according to The Guardian.



 

In her book, she recalled the times she was left humiliated by him. When she moved in with him as a teenager, he told her, "You’re not getting anything. You understand? Nothing. You’re getting nothing," when she asked if she could borrow his car. However, the book talks of her pain as a daughter of an absent father very starkly. "I was not capable of making him melty the way fathers seemed to be around daughters, and I of course took that personally," she said. And, that has lived on with her.

References: 

https://www.cheatsheet.com/entertainment/the-real-reason-steve-jobs-denied-he-was-lisa-brennans-real-father.html/
https://qz.com/1369135/the-shame-of-steve-jobs-as-told-by-his-shunned-daughter/
https://www.theguardian.com/global/2018/sep/01/daughter-steve-jobs-denied-lisa-brennan-jobs