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Single Gay Dad, Just Adopted His Sixth Disabled Child, And He Doesn't Plan On Stopping

Single Gay Dad, Just Adopted His Sixth Disabled Child, And He Doesn't Plan On Stopping

The 37-year-old, who hails from Huddersfield in England, is determined to help children who are in most need of care and a home.

A compassionate man, who just adopted his sixth child, plans to take in more kids with the hope of giving them a better life. Ben Carpenter was just 21 when he adopted his first child and since then he has adopted five kids with disabilities. The 37-year-old, who hails from Huddersfield in England, is determined to help children who are in most need of care and a home. Helping vulnerable kids is a mission very close to his heart and making them a part of his family is his dream. That's why the doting father continues providing a happy home to little munchkins and the latest addition to his family is 2-year-old Louis.

14-year-old Jack, who has autism, was the first child adopted by Carpenter, according to Mirror. Next is Ruby who is now 11 and has a complex disability. 9-year-old Lilly is profoundly deaf, and Joseph, 6, has Down Syndrome. Carpenter's fifth child, Teddy, heartbreakingly died in November 2010. He had Cornelia de Lange syndrome, a rare genetic disorder. But the cause of his death was a result of sepsis, not his disability. Understandably, Teddy's sudden demise left a gaping hole in the father's heart. "I was devastated and I felt guilty for a while because I kept wondering if there was something I could have done to fix it," he shared.



 

Following the death of his fifth child, Carpenter was left in a state of grief and so decided to adopt his sixth child later than he had originally planned to. Now he has welcomed Louis, who is blind and has cerebral palsy, after making inquiries about him in early 2020. "I realized that this little boy also needed me and I could be his last option," he said, adding that Louis arrived at his home in April. Carpenter always wanted to have a family of his own but he wasn't quite fixated on being a biological father. Having worked in the care sector, he came in contact with many vulnerable people and wished to help them out. "I never wanted to become a biological dad because being a parent is so much more than that," explained the father. "I wanted to help kids that were the most vulnerable and the ones that were most in need of a loving and caring home."

After spending almost three years convincing authorities that he is really serious about adoption, he became one of the youngest gay men in the country to have adopted a child. It goes without saying that his journey has been a rather difficult one and to date, he hears different opinions about being a single gay dad. "I often get passing comments like ‘it’s not right’ and ‘because you are gay then all of the children will be gay then won’t they’ other comments I get are he must be doing it for money? To me, they are just comments I can handle it. I do find myself correcting silly naive comments. In all honesty 70% of the time, they do see sense once it’s explained to them," he told Unilad



 

Because Carpenter started adopting kids when he himself was so young, he knew he had to work extra hard to prove that he was capable of taking care of his children. "I needed to show that I was mature enough and could offer these kids what they needed," said the father. "So to begin with I chose a boy and then a girl because I thought that would be the perfect set up and luckily got accepted and matching with my son and daughter, Jack and Ruby." He has also adopted his biological daughter's sister, according to Metro. "So I had two girls and one boy and I thought I should even it out again and adopt another son. So I applied for a boy with Down syndrome and within three days I was matched to a baby boy who had just been born with the condition," he noted.

One of the things that bring him great joy is watching the relationship between the siblings grow. "I often sit and imagine them all at each other's weddings. They are all so supportive of each other and I am so proud that I have created a happy, loving, and stable environment for them to grow up in,"  he shared. Carpenter is not only planning to adopt more kids but also build a sensory room to help kids with "sensory issues, developmental disabilities and learning difficulties. The room gives the children a special place to escape to and feel safe and secure in. With a room designed specifically for their needs, the children have control over what they want to interact with," he wrote on a fundraising page, created to raise money for the sensory room.

Cover image source: Just Giving

References:

https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/selfless-single-dad-adopts-sixth-24329632

https://www.ladbible.com/community/uk-inspirational-man-dubbed-super-dad-after-adopting-four-children-20171018

https://www.justgiving.com/crowdfunding/benjamin-carpenter

https://metro.co.uk/2021/06/16/single-man-adopts-his-sixth-child-with-special-needs-14780669/