The woman seemed to be putting the blame on a woman and her clothes instead of being bothered by men who objectify women.
Looks like internalized misogyny continues to thrive among some people. One woman's letter is telling of how we need to continue to fight for women and end rape culture and victim-blaming. It's disheartening to hear women put down other women, and in a way put down men as well. A Catholic mother of four sons penned a letter titled the "legging problem" implying that men are sexually objectifying monsters who cannot control themselves and women must control what they wear just to appease men. Maryann White implied that women who wear figure-hugging, butt-defining leggings were the reason for the male gaze, rape culture, etc.
The unsavory letter states: I was at Mass at the Basilica with my family. In front of us was a group of young women, all wearing very snug-fitting leggings and all wearing short-waisted tops (so that the lower body was uncovered except for the leggings). Some of them truly looked as though the leggings had been painted on them. A world in which women continue to be depicted as “babes” by movies, video games, music videos, etc. makes it hard on Catholic mothers to teach their sons that women are someone’s daughters and sisters. That women should be viewed first as people — and all people should be considered with respect. I talk to my sons about Princess Leia and how Jabba the Hutt tried to steal her personhood by putting her into a slave girl outfit in which her body became the focus. (That’s the only scene in the whole franchise in which Leia appears in such a way — and it’s forced upon her.)
it’s never because of the clothes, never because of the situation, and never because women aren’t careful enough. it’s always because rapists exist. end of story. stop victim blaming.— dan (@DanelleElisha) January 4, 2021
The mother then goes on to say that "leggings are hardly slave girl outfits. And no one is forcing them on the countless young women who wear them. But I wonder why no one thinks it’s strange that the fashion industry has caused women to voluntarily expose their nether regions in this way. I was ashamed for the young women at Mass. I thought of all the other men around and behind us who couldn’t help but see their behinds. My sons know better than to ogle a woman’s body — certainly when I’m around (and hopefully, also when I’m not). They didn’t stare, and they didn’t comment afterwards. But you couldn’t help but see those blackly naked rear ends. I didn’t want to see them — but they were unavoidable. How much more difficult for young guys to ignore them."
Why is it a woman's job to deal with a man's insecurity? Maryann seems to have omitted that point. Instead she asks, "Leggings are so naked, so form-fitting, so exposing. Could you think of the mothers of sons the next time you go shopping and consider choosing jeans instead?" It is unclear why women need to think of boy's parents while looking for clothes. When women are asked to think, behave or dress a certain way so as not to provoke men doesn't it shift the focus to blaming a woman a man's conduct? Shouldn't the man be held for his actions? If he makes an unwarranted advance on a woman, isn't it HIS fault? How convenient is it to blame a pair of leggings instead? Or worse... a woman. Why do we need to control how people feel about themselves? Why not just take focus away from them and back to our own lives. If something makes you uncomfortable, why not just look away? There's absolutely no need to shift the burden of shame onto someone else. Just let people be... right?
Wearing revealing clothes is a matter of personal choice.Women can wear anything to make herself confident.Instead of shaming women for their choices,can we teach men that women are not sexual objects.Women have the independence. It's their body,not anyone else's.#WINTER #Aespa pic.twitter.com/Cd3rN4S59r— Tonya Wood (@TonyaWo65126816) April 14, 2021