It was a major wake-up call for Cherish Sherry whose daughter Tiana interrupted her while she was in the midst of an argument with her former partner about a fallen shoe rack in the garage.
Divorces get complicated with kids involved. Unlike adults, children cling on to the false hope that maybe one day their parents would definitely get back together and their world comes crashing when they witness the pair constantly fighting even in their presence. This leaves deeps scars on children that may be felt well into their teenage and adult years. While most children suffer silently in such situations, one heartbroken 6-year-old girl decided to plead with her mother to just stop the fights.
It was a major wake-up call for Cherish Sherry whose daughter, Tiana, interrupted her while she was in the midst of an argument with her former partner about a fallen shoe rack in the garage. Having had enough of their bickering, the little girl took her mom inside, sat on the stairs, and began imploring her to try to get along with her ex. "Mom, are you ready to be his friend?" Tiana asked her mother with a dead serious face according to Daily Mail. When Sherry replied, "Yes," Tiana continued, "Try not to be that high up [she says as she gestures with her hands] to be friends, I want everything to be low. Just try your best."
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"I don't want you and my dad to be replaced and meanies again. I want you and my dad to be placed and settled and be friends," she explained, before making it clear that she had no intentions of being mean. "I'm not trying to be mean. I just want everyone to be friends. And if I can be nice, I think all of us can be nice too. I'm not trying to be mean - I'm trying to do my best in my heart. Nothing else than that. I want my mom, my dad, everyone, to be friends. I want everyone to be smiling," she added in a 3-minute clip that was uploaded on Facebook by the single mother, who works two jobs.
Tiana assured her mom that whatever she asked her to do was totally achievable. "I think you can do it. I think you can settle your mean heights down to short heights ... I just want everything to be settled down, nothing else. For everything to be as good as possible. Nothing else," she said. The video ended with the mom thanking her daughter before giving her a hug and a kiss. This conversation was a total life-changer for Sherry who admitted feeling guilty. "I was stunned by it," said the mom who was brought to her tears. "She is teaching me. Woke me up."
People everywhere began sending their love for the kids. "This child is a blessing from God❤ people may be terrible but listen to this kid advice always be happy," wrote one YouTube user. Another noted, "Put this child on a mike in front of the United Nations. She should speak at any important world summit meeting where governments are trying to work out society's problems." User Serena Reynolds added, "Absolutely amazing! One of the kids at work goes up to others when they’re fighting and says “let’s be friends” then gives them a hug. It’s astounding that they know what’s happening and how to deal with it in such a lovely way."
One user had a very profound outlook on childhood as they expressed, "I was helpless a lot as a child I guess. Childhood is like a prison. A decades-long prison sentence that everyone is in denial of it even existing. Many people cannot even remember their childhood. That's why. It's so traumatic we have it blocked out. Or, we know it happened but we have zero feelings about it. Almost like it happened to someone else. Children are always, without exception, the most intelligent people in a family. Start listening to them. Sincerely. Start asking them what they think a solution to a particular problem is. And try what they say. You'll be blown away. If you have the courage to even experiment with it, which most of us don't."
You may think, your kids don't under what's going on around them but that's seldom the case. According to research, children as young as six months have increased heart rates and stress hormone responses when exposed to conflict. This, in turn, disrupts their brain development, sleep cycle, conduct, and may cause anxiety and depression, reports BBC. But these issues are not limited to their childhood but is often carried well into adulthood where it may be a reason for their own unsuccessful relationships. Now it's normal to have arguments once in a while but what matters is the successful resolution of it. When parents explain or resolve the problem in an appropriate way, their kids can learn an important positive lesson that can help them navigate through their own emotions and relationships.
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