We all know it is inevitable that our children will leave the nest someday. But we just keep hoping it is later, rather than sooner.
Having children is one of the most fulfilling things you can do in life. Watching them grow from wee babies to mature adults is a journey with a fair share of highs and lows. Not only do you get to shape them into contributing members of society, but you also get to watch them learn and become their own person. You celebrate your children's achievements as your own and take to heart what upsets them. You have to remind yourself before you can remind them, that all of it is a part of growing up. Time flies when you see your children grow and become adults you are so very proud of.
The same baby who would hug and kiss you, say "I love you" without inhibitions start growing apart as they become teenagers. Before you know it, they are no longer your baby and are now planning to move out. We all know it is inevitable that our children will leave the nest someday. But we just keep hoping it is later, rather than sooner. As your children get busy with their own lives, you get to see them less often. And here are a few things every parent with a grown-up child would want them to know.
Yes, I understand that you are a responsible adult with a job. That you pay taxes and take out loans. But you will always be that toddler who ate crayons and cried when you got hungry. I will always remember the first time you held on to my finger, your first word, your first step. Time may have passed and you are now all grown-up, but I will always be ready to coddle you as I used to. You will get married and have children of your own. But you will still be my baby till the last days of my life.
As you grew up, the way I could be there for you also kept changing. From being there for you all the time as a baby, you hardly needed me as you got older. But know that I will always be there for you through thick and thin. I am just a phone call away. You can show up at my door unannounced at three in the morning and I will be there to lend you my ear or my shoulder. No problem is too small that you cannot share with me. The things I have learned in my life could help you lead yours better.
I have celebrated every achievement of yours since day one and will continue to do so till the end. Each day you try your best to be a better person, give it your all at work, and make an effort, I am beaming with pride. I may not say it often but you are always making me proud. Don't forget that. You are enough and all I ever hope for is for you to be happy.
Watching you grow up was a delight. Your tiny hands asking me to open a box for you, to help you hold your spoon, or help you set-up the new toy you were excited to get. I didn't realize at the time that you will not be needing my help much longer. I would have savored every second of the time I got to guide your tiny hands that are now all too familiar with how to get things done without my help. Don't get me wrong, I love that you are independent now. But I do miss being needed by my baby.
I understand that you are busy now. But I just want you to check in once in a while. A five-minute call to tell me how you are and share with me the highlights of your day, week, or month will make me feel so much better. It would put my mind at ease to know you are doing okay. I am also just a phone call away if you need quick advice or someone to rant to. It could make you feel so much better to just share your burden with me.
I said it to you as a kid and I will tell the same thing to you now. Eat your veggies. What I also mean to say by extension is that I hope you take care of yourself. Have a wholesome and nutritious meal. Takeout is okay once in a while but also make time to cook for yourself and eat meals at home. Nourish your soul. Don't skip your meals because I won't be there to check on you. Your health comes first and it is important that you take care of it.
I have raised you well and I know you are a kind person to those around you. This is a reminder to be patient and kind to yourself. And me sometimes. You are diligent, hard-working, and persistent. I am proud of that but learn to take breaks and not push yourself too hard. You are stronger than you think you are and have so much to offer to the world. So before you burn yourself out, stop and smell the flowers.