The father's parenting tactic left people divided.
One dad decided to teach his 16-year-old daughter a lesson after she made fun of another student who lost her hair to chemo and even pulled off her wig. Her actions felt personal to the dad, who had lost his mother to breast cancer when he was in his 20s. However, the situation was also exacerbated by the fact that she was dating the cancer-stricken classmate's ex-boyfriend. The father explained to CafeMom, "They were having an argument in class about stupid teenage gossip regarding my daughter's boyfriend. At some point the other girl mentioned how my daughter's boyfriend was just using her for sex (this was actually a big shock to me as I had no idea she was sexually active) and called my daughter a slut. That's what escalated the situation and resulted in the wig incident. Supposedly they have been arguing in class ever since my daughter started dating the guy in question. Basically just stupid teenage 'he said she said' nonsense." Despite the high-school drama, the dad wasn't ready to let his daughter off the hook.
In a now-deleted post in the AITA section of Reddit, the father wrote: Not how I've raised my daughter to treat people and it truly disgusted me to hear how she acted from her deputy principle. She showed no remorse. She tried to excuse her behavior by saying the girl in question deserved it. Again, I don't care what she said, that behavior is inexcusable. The dad gave his daughter two options: live without technology or shave her head bald. She chose the latter, but she wasn't happy. Neither was his ex-wife. "She will go to the hairdresser and get a cue ball haircut. As in, a completely shaved head, as bald as the hairdresser can do," he wrote. "No wig. She has to go to school like that until it grows back. I came up with the punishment because I thought my daughter had an extreme lack of empathy for the girl she bullied," he said.
The punishment left Reddit users divided. Some people thought it was too harsh. "Your daughter is a bully because you are a bully," one person wrote. "I seriously doubt this is the first time you used abuse and humiliation to 'teach her a lesson.'" Another added: Your daughter sucks for bullying that girl, obviously. But you went too far with this punishment.
But others felt that the daughter need a lesson in compassion. One person said: Everyone on here obviously has no clue how (expletive) kids can be. I support your decision completely. You're her parent so you have every right to do this, it's not abusive, it's real life. If she's comfortable attacking someone for something they have no choice over she needs to see how it feels. Kids don't learn from compassion as much as we want them to, I'm not saying have no compassion but this isn't a situation where sitting them down and explaining the issue will suddenly make them a better person. And how is this punishment cruel or abusive... guess what... hair grows back, crazy I know, unlike the person she humiliated. Everyone here needs to get some perspective. The dad agreed and told Cafemom, "As far as the backlash, I'll be honest and say it hasn't changed my opinion. Most of the comments called it abuse. I really can't take that seriously, it's just a haircut and her hair will grow back." What do you'll think?